A Guide to Breaking Free From the Illusion of the Separate Self

I was born in Lithuania. Always interested in the mind and how it works, I have a degree in psychology and a mindset to focus on freedom for myself and those who find me.

Most of my life I lived in England with my husband Narimantas, a tattoo artist from whom I learned the art of tattooing. Together we ran a custom tattoo studio in West Sussex till spring of 2017. Till summer of 2019 we lived in Mexico Caribbean and currently we are back to europe, in our home country Lithuania.

My search for truth started in 2002, when for the first time I experienced the silence of the thinking mind, a sweet sense of being, contentment, peace, and feeling at home. In 2010 I discovered Jed McKenna’s books, which were a shock to my belief system and catapulted me “out of hypnosis” and toward the realization that all I believed was not the truth. It wasn’t until the initial deconstruction was done, after months of painful self-inquiry, that I felt at peace: there was an emptiness, a not knowing, a not believing anything about anything. Then the last step was taken and the separate self was seen to be an illusion. Immediately I started writing a blog, Marked, Eternal, where I shared thoughts about this newfound freedom and invited readers to look for themselves in their own experience. Later, with my friend Elena Nezhinsky and a few other people, we developed a process called Direct Pointing, which consists of a dialogue between a guide and a seeker. In September 2011, the Liberation Unleashed website and forum was launched.

Together with Elena we published a book, Gateless Gatecrashers, that consists of conversations leading to self-realization, and which can be downloaded for free from the Liberation Unleashed website.

Liberation Unleashed is a global movement of people helping others to see through the illusion of a separate self. I had thousands of conversations with people from all around the globe. My main focus and work are helping people end their seeking by inviting them to question their fundamental assumptions and look at their own experience. I do not give answers, only questions. In this way, you may see what is going on for yourself and free your mind from conditioned patterns and explore whatever comes next. I hold online meetings and group sessions. All of my work can be found on the blog Marked, Eternal and on Liberation Unleashed forum.

Through experimentation and experience, I found a very simple and powerful way to inquire into what is in the way of peace and called it Deep Looking. I love sharing this technique and witnessing the process of opening up, relaxing into being. When the heart opens and expands, life gets a different flavor. Everything is the same, but all feels and looks different.

It gives me great joy to work with people dedicated to the process. Deep Looking is a user-friendly tool that can be applied in everyday life. Old tensions get seen and can finally come to rest, leaving space for inner peace and allowing joy to arise spontaneously. I absolutely love sharing this gift. Like Rumi said,

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing there is a field.
I’ll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass
the world is too full to talk about.”

I can show you the way to that place inside you if you allow me.

Excerpts from "Liberation Unleashed" book

Paperback: 264 pages
Publisher: Non-Duality (October 1, 2016)
Language: English
Kindle: $13.95
Book: $12.20

Fear Is A Sensation

 

Fear informs us about itself through an intense sensation. There is a distinct flush that gets triggered by thought, sound, color, smell, taste, or touch. Fear makes itself known as a sudden contraction. It’s not pleasant and may set off a chain of reactions. It’s felt as a strong no to whatever is triggering it.

 

Imagine for a second that you are in a desert, a wide-open space. You are walking for hours, in circles. You go up yet another hill and see a closed door. It is standing right there, very obvious, and it is locked. There’s no key around. No key in your pockets. The door does not move, does not open; it just stands there. You are stunned and cannot move forward. So you sit by the door, and sit some more, thinking, guessing, and dreading what might be behind it. It feels as if the door is guarding something, something that you need but cannot see. At the same time the lock is having a laugh; it has done it’s trick, making it appear that there is something important behind the door that is protected.

 

There is another way to find out what is behind the door. No need to unlock it, no need to push it open, just take a step to the side and look behind that silly door. There is nothing there! The desert continues in all directions, and the door stands there, but it’s not an obstacle to your journey.

 

Fear feels and acts like that lock on the door. It stops one from going further. Fear is a signal to step back; it’s a warning of danger, real or imagined. The feeling can be so strong that it may paralyze thinking and acting.

 

Fear is a sensation. It is not to be avoided but rather noticed and felt. It is not good or bad in and of itself. It is doing its job, keeping the self-image and belief structure safe and intact.

Recognition

 

Once it’s seen, it cannot be unseen. This statement refers to recognition. In other words, what is recognized will always be recognised, no matter the situation—unless, of course, you have memory problems.

 

Let’s say you meet someone and ten years later you meet her again—instant recognition happens. It’s underneath the thinking.

 

Recognition is something that operates outside of thoughts. Youmeet that old friend and recognize her simply because she has a unique face, body structure, voice, and so forth. It’s like learning the colors in childhood; a child is shown the color and is told that it is called “red.” That child then recognizes red at any time in life as being “red.” You hear a song once, and the second time you reconnize it—I’ve heard that song before.

 

When we look at something familiar, recognition takes place—the “aha!” moment. We don’t need to philosophize or make logical connections to simply recognize what is already the case.

 

It’s difficult to see the illusion of a separate self only because it has never occurred to us to deeply question the assumptions, I am a separate entity, I have an identity. The “I-thought” is assumed to be “me,” the doer and thinker, a subject with free will and choice.

 

When we start digging into these assumptions, it becomes obvious that an “I-entity” cannot be found. When you face this head-on, recognition happens. “There is no separate self” can just be words that raise your eyebrows, or they can be a knowing that is beyond thought.

 

What is, simply is, without any manager, orchestrator, or puppet master pulling strings. Life is just happening, and everything is happening within it, as it. Nothing is separate from anything else.

 

Everything is dependent upon everything else as one movement, one dance—empty and yet so rich in its fullness.

 

Recognition is a moment when we know that we know. It’s something familiar showing up; it may have been forgotten, or it may have been denied, but once that recognition happens, it is not possible to unrecognize that pattern. Once the seeing happens, once it becomes clear that the separate self is an illusion, it can never be truly forgotten again. Different situations arise with differ- ent levels of intensity, but what has been seen can be seen over and over and over again in every situation. It’s not hidden. When we look at what is obvious, without thinking or referring to a memory, without trying to fit it into models of reality or to match it to the descriptions given by teachers, there is an intimate, instant recognition. This is. This is what is happening now; the rest is a story. No one can convince you that you recognize something. Of course you can pretend and say that you do and make logical expla- nations, express opinions, have debates, write books, and teach about it. But deep knowing comes from within, from looking for yourself, from wanting to know beyond doubt.

Liberation Unleashed is a lively, fresh, and moving account of the author’s own searching, liberation, and transformation, woven together with the stories of fellow seekers and a clear exposition of the simple, focused tools you can use to go through the “gateless gate.” With its conversational tone, provocative questions, and the presentation of the seven steps—“Clearing the path—meeting the fear,” “Strip away ALL expectations,” “Get in touch with the real,” “‘I’ is a thought,” “There is no separate self,” “How does it feel to see this?” and “Falling”—this book serves as an introductory how-to guide, demonstrating how to use the process of self-inquiry to get free from the falseness of the separate self and realize a blissful oneness.

So many of us go through life feeling isolated, searching for ourselves, or seeking a more authentic reality through religion, spirituality, or other, more unconventional means of expanding consciousness. Now, with this book and its guiding principles, you’ll learn how to look deeply into the nature of self and existence; combat the anxieties, fears, mental blocks, and reservations that can arise in self-inquiry; and see the simple beauty of the everyday moment.

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Liberation Unleashed is a lively, fresh, and moving account of the author’s own searching, liberation, and transformation, woven together with the stories of fellow seekers and a clear exposition of the simple, focused tools you can use to go through the “gateless gate.” With its conversational tone, provocative questions, and the presentation of the seven steps—“Clearing the path—meeting the fear,” “Strip away ALL expectations,” “Get in touch with the real,” “‘I’ is a thought,” “There is no separate self,” “How does it feel to see this?” and “Falling”—this book serves as an introductory how-to guide, demonstrating how to use the process of self-inquiry to get free from the falseness of the separate self and realize a blissful oneness.

So many of us go through life feeling isolated, searching for ourselves, or seeking a more authentic reality through religion, spirituality, or other, more unconventional means of expanding consciousness. Now, with this book and its guiding principles, you’ll learn how to look deeply into the nature of self and existence; combat the anxieties, fears, mental blocks, and reservations that can arise in self-inquiry; and see the simple beauty of the everyday moment.